Parents often wonder why their children are self-sufficient at school. At school the children will clean up toys, pass out snacks, and take care of their belongings. How can this be when at home, they refuse to pick up toys or insist that mom or dad help them with every task? A child will test limits with their parents because he or she trusts the parent will love them no matter what. Barbara Bogle recently shared parenting strategies with our parents. Barbara was guidance counselor for 19 years and is now a parenting coach. Barbara shared suggestions as to how to help parents prepare their child to be a healthy, happy, productive member of society. Below are some strategies that can be used at home with your child.

1. Expect more. At school we expect the children to hang up their coats, put Game Room games back in the proper “home”, or throw away their trash after snack (just to name a few “chores”). Children love feeling independent. Today I watched the youngest 3 Day children throw their cup and napkin in the trash after snack time. Each child completed the simple task. Expect them to do more and most often they will.
2. Resist doing for your child what they can do for themselves. It is quicker and easier for you to do it. Whenever you are trying to get your children to dress, put jackets on, etc., ask them if they want help or can they do it themselves? Suggesting your child complete a task without assistance is like magic. Kids always want to do it for themselves! Watch how the children walk proudly into school. They want to do it themselves! Often they will wave my hand away when offered.
3. Don’t redo what they’ve done. Unless absolutely necessary, don’t fix what your child accomplishes. If she dresses in stripe and polka dots, compliment her. As teachers we don’t “fix” art projects the children have created. I love pictures with crooked smiles. The projects are self-directed and a unique creation of the child. The child feels a sense of accomplishment completing the art activity.
4. Let them solve simple problems. Pause before rushing to help your child assemble a toy or get a book from a shelf. We cheat a child the experience of success if we try to make everything perfect. In the Game Room, the children often use discriminating skills to complete assigned games. They are problem-solving.
5. Assign a chore. Assigning a regular, simple task will build your child’s confidence. The goal is to make your child feel like they are contributing to the family. The children at BUMNS are assigned weekly jobs. They love the feeling of independence as the mail person, line leader, snack person, flag holder; such simple tasks that make the children feel good about themselves.
It is fun watching the children at school grow and change as they become confident with our school routine. Each child has their own unique personality. Our job is to encourage, teach and give them the tools for a lifetime of success.

Valentine’s Day parties will be celebrated on the 12th and 13th of February. The holiday teaches children the importance of appreciating family and friends. The children enjoy giving and receiving Valentine’s. The 5 Day children will soon be celebrating their 100th day of school. The children are counting down the days. They have learned to count by 5’s and 10’s to 100. Pizza will be delivered to school to celebrate this special day.
BUMNS children will be saving pennies during the month of February. The collected money will be contributed to Berwyn United Methodist Church’s HUB outreach. The pennies will help buy school kits for children who are less fortunate.

Think Silent Auction and Spring Dinner! Preparations are underway for our annual Silent Auction and Spring Dinner being held on Wednesday, April 22nd. Moms, dads and guests are invited to attend. The evening promises to be fun for all. Consider donating to the Silent Auction. Donations might include golf outings, Philly Sport Team tickets, a talent or skill, restaurant gift certificates or gym memberships. Contact the school office for more information.

Important Dates and Reminders:
• Thursday, Feb. 12th 2,4 & Mrs. Y’s 5 Day Valentine’s Day Parties
• Friday, Feb. 13th 3 & 5 Day Valentine’s Day Parties
• Monday, Feb.16th No School
• Wednesday, Feb. 25th 5 Day trip to the Great Valley Nature Center
• Weds. March 11th Save the Date! Fun Day at Chuckie Cheese! (No School)
• Thursday, March 12th Conferences (No School)
• Friday, March 13th Conferences (No School)